Covering my mouth to escape the foul odor of stale bourbon, I could feel the doorknob press against the small of my back as he stumbled toward me. With nowhere to go I wondered if his punch would land on my face this time.

Instead of anger, though, I literally felt the shame in his voice as he mumbled, “I can’t look at you anymore. I want out.”

His comment struck me like lightening. It was unexpected, jarring, and painful. And so I stood there – stunned, motionless, and unresponsive – as he walked out the door.

The flood of emotions that surfaced a few hours later would dampen my world for months.

It didn’t matter that he called me unspeakable names. Or spent money we didn’t have, in spite of the endless collection calls and termination notices. Or blamed me repeatedly for his poor judgment and immorality. His leaving seemed worse than all that.

How dare he! I’m the best thing that’s ever happened to him! He’ll never survive without me! He doesn’t get to leave! This cannot be happening! Not to ME!

And yet it did happen to me and it left me devastated. Above all, I felt lost.

In 2000 I started putting back together the pieces of my life. I was broken – mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.  I was Fragile and Fearful.

Thankfully, I am no longer that person.  Today I am confident in WHO I am and WHOSE I am, and I want to help other women gain that same level of confidence.

Welcome to His Side of the Looking Glass, a place where you can find help that’s free and affordable in your effort to see yourself as God sees you:

Either way, I’m glad you’re here.

Kristen –



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